Advice for Parents Who are Divorcing
Put your children's needs first
Tell your children that they are number one: "You're the most important. You are first in everything that we think and do, and we're going to take care of you."
Communicate clearly with your children
If communication is vague, children fill in the blanks to the detriment of themselves. They will blame themselves and think that it's their fault that things have happened.
Don't put your kids in the middle
Resolve that there is not going to be a tug of war. Don't put the children in between you and your ex.
Fight in private
Parents must make a plan to help their children make it through the transition with as little trauma as possible. If parents are filled with bitterness and angst and resentment then their children are going to get pulled back and forth; and that's not fair to them.
Never undermine the other parent
Don't be critical of your ex in front of the children. Don't attack the mother/father of your child.